Softness is power. Regulation is rebellion.

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy: My Favorite Choose-Your-Own-Adventure Approach

ACT, short for Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, is the modality I’m most biased toward — in the best way. It’s the approach that helped me personally move past perfectionism that was fueling my anxiety disorder. It’s not based on DSM labels or diagnostic boxes. It’s built on

What I Mean When I Talk About ‘Parts’ in Session

Have you ever caught yourself thinking, "Part of me wants to be brave and speak up… and another part just wants to disappear"? That’s not just a figure of speech. It’s actually one of the simplest ways to describe how your inner world works. Internal Family

When Your Parent Was Emotionally Immature: Why It Wasn’t Your Fault, and What to Do Now

🧠 Inspired by the book Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson, Psy.D ✨ Brought to you by Regulated Baddie: where we don’t shrink our stories, we reclaim them. 💔 If Your Deepest Needs Were Treated Like Too Much… There’s a particular kind of ache that doesn’

You Are Not Your Thoughts: Noticing and Naming in ACT and IFS

“It’s just a thought.” We say this to reassure ourselves. Or to brush things off. But in both ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy) and IFS (Internal Family Systems), the ability to gently notice and name a thought is more than a throwaway moment. It’s foundational. It’s also

Stuck in the “Should I / Shouldn’t I?” Spiral? Here’s a Way Through Everyday Decisions

Sometimes the decisions that take up the most mental energy aren’t the biggest ones. They’re the “Should I go to the thing?” “Do I say yes or no to this invite?” “Do I spend the money, or stay home?” “Do I rest, or push myself to show up?

How to Get Back on Board with Therapy After a Shitty Experience

A recent comment on one of my videos sparked this post. Funny how a quick interaction turns into a full-blown blog article—but honestly, that feels right. If it resonates, I’ll keep going deeper on the topic. Let’s talk about getting back into therapy after a truly bad

The Quiet Grief of Wasted Talent

My mom is grieving the loss of her estranged father. I may write more about that at some point. His death stirred something unexpected in me—a deeper reflection on the grief I carry for someone still alive. This is a creative processing of that grief. There’s a particular

Avoidance Isn’t Laziness — It’s a Nervous System Strategy

You’re not broken for ignoring group texts. Or needing three hours to recover from a one-hour coffee date. Or quietly hoping plans fall through. That pull to not engage isn’t weakness—it’s your nervous system doing its job: protecting you from what it thinks is a threat.